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Choose words that will inspire, not destroy

When 2016 drew to a close, it can be said that the world took a collective breath of relief. It was a year that seemed rife with disappearing hope, innocence, and justice.

When 2016 drew to a close, it can be said that the world took a collective breath of relief. It was a year that seemed rife with disappearing hope, innocence, and justice. 2015 had ended on the high note of refugee resettlement plans and promises of 鈥渟unny days.鈥 But the past year was very different. If anything, 91原创s expressed a realization of the hollowness that words can carry and the pain they can cause.

The realities of the past year included bitter elections in the US and UK and a myriad of sexual abuse cases. These painful events had a common factor:聽 they showcased the power of words. From 鈥榣ocker-room talk鈥 to questions of consent, from the culpability of hate speech to defining free speech, the usage of words was at the heart of all of these issues.

The blindness of our society to the power of words is shocking. It is disheartening to see the pain inflicted by words ignored or dismissed. The culture that has been cultivated is one defined by the saying 鈥渟ticks and stones will break my bone but words will never hurt me.鈥 Today, we as a society are slowly realizing how false that statement is. We now see how words are at the root of the problems we, as a society, face. Consent is a simple yes or no; an act of terrorism often starts with a person being filled with hate; mass shootings often involve a bullied child. We have learned that words do hurt; they inflict wounds that go deeper than the flesh and into the intricate networks of our brains.

Words on their own are harmless collections of sounds that have acquired meaning over time. But when combined, they become powerful weapons to inspire or destroy. 鈥淪ay something good, or be quiet.鈥 It is one of the Prophet Muhammad鈥檚 most well-known sayings taught to children in regards to lying and cursing. But for adults living in the real world far removed from the simplicity and innocence of childhood, its scope is much wider.

When the Prophet said 鈥淪ay something good, or be quiet,鈥 he wasn鈥檛 just talking about lying and cursing. He was talking about the pain that our tongues can inflict too. He was talking about the so-called 鈥渓ocker room talk that diminishes the value of women and other groups, making them seem like lesser people and creating a sense of distance that makes the physical crimes of sexual assault and domestic abuse easier to enact and justify. He was talking too about the words of hate directed against a minority group that falls on the ears of a troubled individual and results in catastrophic massacres like the Charleston Shooting. He was talking too about the 鈥榡okes鈥 that a child hears which is repeated to their disabled classmate.

It鈥檚 just a joke. It鈥檚 just kids being kids, or boys being boys. We need to stop being politically correct. These are all excuses for the usage of painful words that we have heard repeated by people many times. Allah says in the Quran: "Not a word does he (or she) utter, but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it).''[50:18]. This poignant verse reminds us that there is no word that we utter too insignificant or that that goes unnoticed. Every action has a consequence. As Ali, one of the companions of the Prophet, once said: 鈥淲ords are under your control until you speak them.鈥 May this become something that we are aware of even more in the future, lest our words take on a power that causes unpredictable harm.

Maryam Baksh聽is a recent graduate of the University of British Columbia. She is a member of the Muslim community in 91原创.聽

You can read more articles from our interfaith blog, Spiritually Speaking

*This article was published in the print edition of the Times 91原创 on Saturday, January 7 2016